Talking To Children About Death

The loss of a loved one is never an easy time. When someone close to you passes away, it can be difficult to deliver the news to friends and loved ones. Some of the hardest people to talk to about death to are children. In many cases, parents struggle with what to say and how to speak to their kids about death. It can be a sensitive topic as you’re unsure of exactly what information you should tell them, and more so, how to explain it.

Every child is different and may react differently to the grief they’re experiencing. Be prepared that just because one child was more open to communicate another child may not. The best advice we can offer is to be honest, help them understand what has happened and prepare them for what lies ahead. Will this be easy? No. But it will help the child work through a difficult time and learn that death is a natural part of life.

If you’ve lost someone close to you, you’re going to be upset about it. Rather than trying to hide your tears and pain, or leaving your child wondering, be honest with them right away. By letting them know why you are upset and emotional, it can help them better understand the grieving process.

It’s important to let your child know what death means. Using a word like death or died can be difficult but it’s ultimately more beneficial to your child. If you use words like went to sleep, the child may be confused and not fully understand the situation. Let them know what death is so they are not left with any questions.

If this is the first time your child has lost someone in their life, be prepared for a variety of different responses. Everyone reacts to the initial trauma differently; your child may be upset or angry. Let them deal with this initial trauma in their own way and have time to process it.

They may have questions about what life will be like without this person. If they were especially close to the deceased, make sure they know that there are still ways to celebrate holidays and other events without them there.

Make sure you talk to your child about what to expect at the funeral service. Your child may have questions about burial or cremation so make sure they understand what is happening. If there is a viewing planned, make sure they are prepared for this beforehand. You should also discuss funeral etiquette, and how the day will go so they have time to prepare themselves.

Crying is a healthy part of the grieving process. Don’t feel the need to hide your emotions in front of your child. Crying together can be helpful in the healing process.